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By Pam Stevens
Managing Editor 

Keeping our daughters safe in a world that wants to exploit them


March 26, 2013

Scrolling through Facebook last week I noticed a friend of mine shared a link to a blog post about raising daughters and how girls are being devalued in the world today.

The blog entitled “We are That family…you know the ones” gave great insight to the trials of raising daughters with high standards in the world we live.

Trying to shop for a bathing last week with my 13-year-old daughter became quite a chore. In the past we’ve been able to find several cute and modest swimming suits at most local stores.

This year we weren’t having much luck. Most of the swimming suits were made up of barely any fabric with low cut tops and teeny, tiny bottoms. Not really appropriate for a 13-year-old girl. I am proud to say that my daughter didn’t even want to look at those suits and knew she would never feel comfortable wearing them.

To my horror, I read on this blog about the new ad campaign of Victoria’s Secret for their new line for young girls and early teens called, “Bright Young Things.” The line caters to tweens and includes clothing with things like, “Feeling Lucky?” and “Call Me” printed on them. Really? Do 9 and 10 year old girls need to come across as sexy with the words “Call Me,” scrawled across their bottoms and fronts?

In a world where sexy sells, it is getting harder and harder to find modest and age-appropriate clothing for my new teenager. I am sure many of you moms out there have noticed this as well.

Frankly, I am appalled that my 16-year-old son is forced to look at this type of immodesty in girls, girls that should be respected and treated like queens. Thank goodness my son has a father who has taught him how to treat women and a mother who demands that he respects them.

Seeing girls walk around in skin clad and sexy clothing only leads to more curiosity which helps explain why more than 500 million searches have been made online for pornography since January 1, 2013. Many of these searches are for young girls. This statistic makes me very sad and I hope that any parent out there would feel the same. I can’t imagine being the parents of those poor girls.

I appreciated the blog posting, “7 ways to help your daughter see her value” and I am including them here so that we, as parents and hopefully teenage girls, will see them and really think about the impact these simple things can have on a young girl’s life.

You are Valuable – I tell my daughter this every single day. I also tell her how brave she is to go out into the world and try her hardest to choose the right.

Your Worth Isn’t Based on Your Appearance – While I know my daughter is beautiful on the outside, she is even more beautiful on the inside and that’s what makes her special.

You Don’t Need A Guy – Amen sister! Wait for the right guy – he is out there. The one just like your father!

You Are Amazing – Enough said – just make sure you tell your daughter that everyday because she is!

You Don’t Have to Believe What You Hear – Mean girls are everywhere and even my son notices when he said last week, “Girls are so mean with their words!” Girls are mean because they are insecure. Don’t lower yourself to their level.

You Have Me (and your dad and your brother and church leaders and extended family and Heavenly Father) that love you! No matter what!!

You CAN Change the World! Dream big, work hard and serve others!

Let’s keep our daughters safe, not only physically but emotionally as well. We may not be able to change the world they live in but we can help them walk through it with dignity and respect.

“Our daughters are precious, intrinsically valuable and deserve better — they deserve to be cherished and protected.” -Amy Gerwing


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